Perspective – do you have one?

What is perspective?

  • English Dictionary says it’s a “view.”
  • Could be a view on life
  • Maybe a view of an object
  • Perhaps how you see something or someone
  • Ever had a wrong perspective about something or someone?

Are you near enough to have a perspective?

The story is told of two farmers walking down a country road. One quipped, “Look at that white mule down the road!” The other one responded; “Have you ever seen a white mule? That mule is grey!” As they got closer they both found that it was not even a mule, but was a horse and it was grey!

Maybe you’re not close enough to have a perspective on something. Perhaps you have been told something about a product or a person, only to find to your embarrassment that it was not true. I have used products for years without any problem, only to have others tell me that the product was worthless, or flawed. It’s all in perspective!

What are you focusing on?

On some cameras you can adjust the focus of your lens so that objects near you are blurred, while those further away that you have focused on are clear.

Often times we focus on things that are immenant really are not important at the moment, while things further down the road are what really needs our attention. It’s the old “Can’t see the forest for the trees” problem. We’re focusing on the wrong things.

Step back from the problem or circumstance and take another look. Try looking at something from another person perspective. Every coin really does have two sides…have you looked at the other side?

Marriages have been ruined because one person in the marriage had a different perspective and the other refused to look at that perspective. Partnerships in business have been destroyed because one of the partners had a different perspective of the situation. Back up – take another look. Get another perspective.

Rose colored glasses!

Ever hear that expression that a person is looking at someone or something through “Rose colored” glasses? Perhaps you or another person is looking at something through different glasses. I have perscription lenses in my glasses. I have worn different kinds of sun glasses and each one gave a different hue just by the color of the lens.

Maybe it’s time to change your lens, or get a different perspective.

Is there a “true” perspective?

  • It depends on your upbringing or heritage
  • It’s always possible that your perspective comes from your education
  • Could be your personal beliefs are so strong you may not wish to look at another perspective

All of the above are possible and none are necessarily wrong, or right. What may be a clear perspective or view to you may be a totally different perspective to someone else.

I had a professor in college who when a student made a statement said, ” different, but not wrong.” Something may be different that you have been taught, or led to believe, but it may not be wrong.

Are things really black and white, or are there grey areas? I have to confess I have held some beliefs that I was absolutly positive were black or white, only to have questions raised after doing some more research about it. I am a licensed and trained pilot. I must tell you that in aviation there are some really black and white issues…there is nothing grey about it.

The laws of aerodynamics are pretty clear. There are no grey areas in gravity! Newton was right…what goes up, must come down. The laws of lift, thrust and drag are very black and white. Nothing grey about them.


Before you form your perspective or view, make sure you are focused on the proper object. Make certain that you have all the facts. Make sure that your view is clear, not obstructed, or colored by ignorance of the subject. Then and only then form your perspective and be open to a different perspective if needed.

intelligent risk taking – is there such a thing?

What do we mean when we say intelligent risk taking? Is it possible? Let’s talk about it and see if we can find the answer. Let’s dig through all the hype and misunderstandings.

Life is a risk

  • When you step out your front door you take a risk
  • You could be hit by a tree, or a car, or perhaps an airplane could fall on you
  • When you get in your car, you really take a risk. It’s not about you…it’s about all the other drivers out there
  • Just as bad, you take a risk in your own home. You could fall down the stairs. You could fall in the bathtub
  • In business, you really stick your neck out. What happens before you step out of your front door?

What happens before you go out the door?

  • Have you thought about the roof caving in on you in bed?
  • Maybe a fire will start and you could lose everything
  • Perhaps you will plug in your coffee pot and get electrocuted
  • Maybe, just maybe the cereal or the eggs are spoiled
  • You could slip on a skate in the floor and break a leg

Now, the scary part…stepping out of the front door

  • Is there ice on the steps or sidewalk. Maybe you’ll fall
  • You could lock yourself out of the house and have to break a window to get back in
  • Maybe the car won’t start. Perhaps the bus will be late
  • Wait…maybe a tree will fall on you
  • Oh dear, an airplane could fall out of the sky…happens all the time

The best is ahead of you – going to work

  • Do you know what the chances of getting in a car wreck are? One out of 77
  • What are the odds your boss will give you the pink slip? Depends on many things
  • You could be accused of a sexual crime and go to jail
  • Your business could take a nosedive and face bankruptcy in a day
  • You could be sued for negligence and lose all your life’s savings

Now we turn the cards over…could be a full house!

Okay, we’ve looked at all the bad and crazy things that can happen. What are the odds they will happen? This is where intelligent risk taking comes in. We can lessen all the odds by doing a few simple things.

  • First, insure yourself properly. Get a reliable agent to go over all the risks and insure yourself as much as possible
  • Keep your home safe. Pick up after yourself. Keep your building safe and repaired.
  • Use precautions in the shower or tub. Handles are great
  • Look at food labels. Don/t eat outdated or recalled food. Think ahead
  • Keep your lawn and sidewalks cleared of debris and snow or ice
  • Keep your car serviced
  • Leave 15 minutes earlier for work
  • Drive wise, not aggressively. You can’t fix stupid, but you can slow it down
  • If you are an employee, be happy. Do your job
  • Don’t mess with the opposite sex
  • If you are an employer, treat people good. Cast your bread on the water – it will come back French Toast!

What’s the worst thing that can happen?

  • You could die – odds are 100% against you. Stay as healthy as you can
  • All of the above things that could happen, actually happen. Minimize the odds
  • Now, with the worst things out of the way, BEGIN!

Money making scams – don’t get scammed

They are prolific!

Easy money! Quick bucks! No work required…we do it all for you!

Yes, we’ve all been sucked in at sometimes by the “easy money” schemes, mainly because there are so many of them. They’re everywhere and they sound so good.

  • No money required
  • We do it all for you – free professional website, all built for you!
  • Residual income for the rest of your life
  • Look at my bank statement… I made $5,000 just in one day!
  • Trust me
  • Join thousands who have made a fortune

No money required…really!

  • You have just fallen for the greatest scam of all times! You sign up, then comes the “upgrades”, without which you have limited, or no access to all the “goodies” that you could have if you only forked out $49 more.
  • So, you fork out the $49 and you now have access to the next “upgrade”. For just $99 you can get all the tools you will ever need to make a fortune!
  • You lay out $99 more hard-earned cash and surprise…you get another “upgrade”. For only $199 upgrade we’ll send you tons of leads.
  • Now, you have spent $347 for a “free” money making scheme and all you have now is credit card charges for upgrades.

We do it all for you – FREE professional website

  • I have some swamp land in Arizona I want to sell you if you believe this.
  • Ever seen the “free websites”? I know, that’s why they are free
  • So, now you have a professionally built website…that and $1 will get you a Senior Coffee at McDonald’s!
  • I know this will come as a shock, but there are no free websites!

Residual income for the rest of your life

  • Buy your airline ticket for your dream island, relax and watch the money come in!
  • You’ll never have to work the rest of your life because there is welfare, food stamps, and free lunches
  • One problem…ain’t no free lunches!
  • The dream island is only for the scam artist
  • The residual income only goes to their scammer

Look at my bank statement!

  • I copied it fresh off the internet
  • The only problem is its fake!
  • Anyone can produce a fake bank statement
  • the only one making $5,000 a day is the scammer, not you, who has just charged $347 to your already maxed out credit card

Trust me

A few years ago there was a TV program in the U.S. that had as the opening of the program a guy with a gun, saying “trust me”, as he fell backward over a log.

If it sounds too good to be true, generally, it is too good to be true! My father had a great philosophy…don’t trust anyone until they earn your trust by being trustworthy.

A friend of mine sums it up well…”I’m a positive skeptic!”.

Be positive in your beliefs but be skeptical of anything that smacks of a scam, and there a lot of scams out there to make you skeptical.

Join thousands who have made a fortune

  • Where?
  • How?

Remember Wendy’s hamburger ads years ago? “Where’s the beef?

I love the line in the Jerry Maguire movie, “show me the money!”, .

Yes, there are thousands who have made a fortune on the internet and there are thousands of scammers on the internet. Your job is to locate them and avoid them. I feel one of my goals in life is to not only avoid them for myself but to help as many as possible to avoid them and not waste hard-earned money on scams.


Are there legitimate ways to make money on the internet? Of course, there are. There are probably more legitimate ways than there are illegitimate ones.

I have personally spent thousands of dollars (I think “wasted” is a better word) on internet businesses. Until a few months ago, I had not found even one that worked for me. Does that mean that they were all scams? Not at all, it’s just that they didn’t work for me. I found too many promises and no beef!

I decided to try just one more. Have I found my internet mecca? No, but I have found something that actually works and doesn’t cost me an arm and a leg. It provides me with up to 25 legitimate websites, hosted and with legitimate domains.

I’m a little over half-way through all the training that is provided and I must say, it is fantastic. Are there any downsides to it? Haven’t found any yet.

Have I had to put a ton of money on my credit cards? No, only the small amount that I was told about up front. Have I been asked for “upgrades?”, . Yes, there are some available, only one that I feel I personally needed and there was no pressure to take that one.

Okay, okay, what is it? Show me the money!

it is Here! Just click the link and find out for yourself. No pressure…no promises…just results.

Consistence versus persistence – both necessary to success

Ever wondered what the difference is? Both are adjectives but have different meanings.


  • Basically, you do the same thing over and over
  • Go to bed same time, get up the same time
  • Eat meals at the same time each day
  • A daily routine for doing things – emails, phone calls, projects
  • Dependability – people come to expect you to be on time, to do your work
  • Quality – everyone likes to know they can expect good quality from you

With all this said, there is an inherent danger that you get in such a habit of doing things, that you expect different results. Ain’t gonna happen.


  • Stickibility
  • Hanging on
  • Overcoming every obstacle
  • Never give up
  • Keep fighting until you win
  • Going the extra mile
  • Completing the journey

Everyone faces some obstacle, or bump in the road of life. We all face something that seems to overwhelm us and the greatest temptation is to just quit!

Vince Lombardi was right: “Quitters never win and winners never quit.”

So many quit when they are so near the goal. Some just tire out and can’t walk another yard, or so they think.

I had the privilege of working with the Insurance magnate, A. .L. Williams, of A. L. Williams and Assoc. I remember vividly standing in front of his desk once when I had done everything I could do to make a tour program work for his organization and I just couldn’t seem to get it done.

I will never forget what he told me, which I later learned was the title of his best-selling book: All you can do is all you can do, but all you can do is enough, and he quoted those words to me. It was a life changing experience. I quickly learned that some things were literally beyond my control and after I had done all I could do, that was enough.

There just comes a time in everyone’s life when you have done all you can do. Everyone, no matter how strong or invincible you may be, will come to a place in your life when you need a helping hand.

It’s not a sign of weakness to reach out to someone for help – to the contrary, it shows great fortitude and faith. I know several people who were struggling, but just would not reach out and ask for help. There are times when I would love to have come alongside another person and told them I would help them carry the load.

Stubbornness, selfishness, self-will, arrogance, all these contribute to a downfall, when it could all have been avoided by just asking for help.

Putting it all together

While the two adjectives are different, they both are necessary for success in any project.

You need to be consistent in everything you do. It’s not enough to get up the same time every day and do nothing when you get up!

It does absolutely no good to go to bed every night at the same time if you don’t get out of bed and do some work. It’s one thing to punch a clock every day and still not be consistent in getting your work done.

What value is it to build something, or do something and then what you build or do falls apart! You need to have quality and value, you just have to be consistent to produce it.

It’s not enough to learn to fly an airplane if your desire is to fly with a precision air team! You have to go through hours, days, weeks and months of training. It also requires teamwork, cooperation with others and a clear objective. It requires you to stick to it and overcome every obstacle that you hit.

You have to keep your eye on the goal and proceed with unrelenting desire to reach it. You will have to swim rivers, cross mountains, hit detours and loads of speed bumps, but the goal is worth the effort.

“When you are going through hell, keep on going. Never never never give up.”

Winston Churchill

Is there any part of this that you don’t understand? Just never give up!


Persistence pays – Stick to it and win

Thomas Edison said it well: “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

I can assure you, you will not fail if you do not try. Many people can begin a project, but not everyone finishes. Often we are dogged by discouragement, disappointment and just plain laziness.

Persistence always pays off

  • Where there is a will, there is a way!
  • Don’t ever give up.
  • Hang in there
  • Keep on trucking

All these sayings are true. If you have the will to succeed, you will.

You will never succeed if you give up.

You must just simply, hang in there…don’t quite

Even if the truck breaks down, fix it and keep on trucking!

We often quit when we’re about to win

Many are the stories of people quitting just before they reach the goal. There are stories of people who have died in a snow storm, just feet from safety.

People have drowned only a few feet from the shore.

The reverse of this can be true in gambling…we feel the winning hand is the next one, and the next one, or surely the next one, only to lose all our money.

You may be near the winner’s circle

Vic Johnson wrote a great book, Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.

All of us must pause at times and rest, however, that is not the quitting point. We can be oh so near the goal, or to the winning circle and just give us.

Rest if you must, but don’t quit.

Many of us have started a journey and because of construction, car trouble, or what may be, we have turned back or quit.

The secret is to plan and think through what we want and expect from what you are seeking to do. You must have some goals. There must be goals within the goals, or steps to reach the goal. You must be prepared for each step of the journey and anticipate what you will come up against.

With all this planning and thinking, you are ready to begin the journey. The journey begins with…

The first step.

Chinese philosopher Laozi made this famous quote: “a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”.

Unless you make the first step, there will be no journey. Without that first step, it is just an idea, or perhaps a dream or wish. You must begin before you can finish!

It has been rightfully said that you must begin with the end in mind. It is necessary to know exactly what you want. You cannot be vague. You must be specific, with steps to reach the final goal.

I have found it works much better if I use some sort of “to do,” or project list that has sub-tasks to complete the project.


Not sure that is a word, however, it is something you MUST have to complete any project or journey. Let’s look at some possible steps in our journey:

  • Prospect
  • Respect
  • Inspect
  • Expect
  • Accept

First, you must do some prospective work on your journey or your project. You must do some old-fashioned prospecting to find out what it is you want to accomplish. The internet provides an excellent tool to do your research.

Then you must have respect for anyone or anything that you use or who helps you reach your goal

Next, you must inspect your work along the way to make sure you are on course. If the train runs off the track, you will not get far. Check your progress.

Then you must expect to be successful If you don’t believe you will be successful, trust me, you won’t be!

Finally, you must accept the fact that you have or will reach your goal and you must accept the help or assistance you get from others along the way.


There must be a target, such as a date, time or destination. Without that, how will you know if you have succeeded?

So, begin…take the first step. Check the map occasionally to make sure you are on course, then make sure you complete all the steps and enjoy the journey.


Change the world – one person can do it – is it you?

Most of us have never heard of John Frederick Parker (1830 – 1890). John was the police officer assigned to guard President Abraham Lincoln. Not only was he negligent, but he was also probably drunk! He left his post and joined Lincoln’s carriage driver at the Star Saloon, next door to the Ford’s Theater, where Lincoln was watching the play, Our American Cousin.

John Frederick Parker

People who have changed the world

Louis Pasteur (1822 – 1895) Invented the process of removing germs from milk, the process later called pasteurization, named after him.

Louis Pasteur

Leonardo da Vinci (1452 – 1519), was no doubt the father of the European Renaissance, marking the birth of many great discoveries and learning.

Leonardo da Vinci

Harland Sanders (1890 – 1980) was the founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken. Sanders was retired from the U.S. Postal service and had failed at several jobs before developing his famous chicken.

Harland Sanders

How do you fit into this picture?

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.

He said, “My son, the battle is between two “wolves” inside us all.

One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”

The old chief replied; “The one you feed”.

You are what you think you are

“You are what you think all day long.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” Henry Ford

“For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he:” Proverbs 23:7

” Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things”. Philippians 4:8

It all boils down to this. You are what you think you are. Henry Ford was correct. The great King Solomon hit it on the head. You become what you think about.

“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve”. Napoleon Hill


My precious mother was a school teacher. She instilled in me these words; “You can be anything you want to be. Don’t sell yourself short”.

I have lived by those words for over 80 years and found them to be true. Turn your mind loose…cast off all moorings and sail! Explore new dimensions…conquer new frontiers…explore new lands…think out of the box…operate outside of the envelope.

“Anyone who stops learning is old, whether twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young… The greatest thing you can do is keep your mind young”. Mark Twain

Stay young my friend.


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Name: Wealthy Affiliate


Price: Free trial. $49 monthly to upgrade to Premium. Highly recommended

Owners: Kyle & Carson


Product Overview: Wealthy Affiliate is an online business designed to train and equip people to set up their own websites. Wealthy Affiliate provides web hosting, domain management, training and support.

The Good & the Bad

The Good:

  • Excellent training.
  • Great support.
  • Upgrade to Premium and you get up to 25 websites hosted.
  • Opportunity to earn a trip to the annual convention in Las Vegas
  • Tools to help get ranked by SEO.
  • Opportunities to earn extra income through online and affiliate marketing.

The Bad:

  • It is easy to get overwhelmed by all the training and information available.
  • It is necessary to upgrade to Premium to get all the benefits.

Who is Wealthy Affiliate For?

While not limited to those seeking extra income, most of the training and information is geared to an online business opportunity.

Wealthy Affiliate Tools & Training

Wealthy Affiliate offers a wide range of training and tools. Examples are:

The training program walks you through the basics of setting up your own websites. The lessons are very detailed in every step of setting up the website. When you have finished each lesson, you are challenged to create a post or a review on your own website.

The training includes getting linked and ranked on Google,

Information about the tools and training here.

Wealthy Affiliate Support

In addition to a multitude of training materials, the company offers immediate support. Support tickets are usually answered in minutes, not days as some do.

There are many forums by the members and staff that offer help and guidance. The membership is great to pitch in and answer questions.


When they advertise that it is free, that’s what it is. The benefits are quite limited on the free account, but it is what it says, free. There is a 7-day trial for Premium so that you can try to see if the amount you pay is worth the amount.

For $49 a month (you can save a considerable amount by paying annually) you can upgrade to Premium, which gives basically unlimited access to all the training and help.

My Final Opinion of Wealthy Affiliate

I must make it clear that I joined Wealthy Affiliate after trying to have a web presence for over 10 years and not having any success. I chose to take the Premium account and paid annually to save money.

I have enjoyed the training and have learned so much that I can honestly say, I have more than got my money’s worth

free website building software – is it free?

There are tons of offers on the internet for free website building. Most of them I have checked are not free. So, what is free? Most of us have heard the phrase, “there is no free lunch.” Unfortunately, that is mostly true


Here is something you need to know…try before you buy! Any offer should give you a free trial period that does not require a payment or credit card is a must. If not, run! I want to give you a review on a free website builder.


I have personally tried many of the “free” website builder sites. I have to confess, I have been totally disappointed with all of them, up until now.

Here are some of my reasons for my disappointment:

  • They weren’t really free. There were “sell ups”, and “upgrades” required in all of them.
  • Most of them offered little or no training.
  • Most of them offered little or no real help or assistance.
  • Few if any offered help from fellow members

That was before I discovered SiteRubix.

Here’s what I found on this site

  1. It is Free. There are no credit cards required and a trial period to actually do a test run.
  2. Support to help me get started with building my own website.
  3. A website that works on cell phones & tablets as well.
  4. Thousands of professional designs and templates.
  5. Partners with Wealthy Affiliate, a most respected internet business.
  6. Multiple features to enhance my web presence.
  7. Backed by powerful technology to make your website secure and productive.

Why do I need a website?

Nowadays a website is no longer a luxury, it is a necessity, even if you are not an entrepreneur. Just for communication alone, a website is a goldmine. If you are in any kind of business, whether it be internet, or a brick and mortar store, a website is a necessity.

Of course, you can certainly hire your website to be built by professionals and there are many good ones. The cost can range from a few hundred dollars to thousands of dollars, depending on what you want your site to do.

An alternative solution is to build your own website, using a state-of-the-art website builder. Here comes SiteRubix. In literally minutes, you can build a professional looking and working website and for little investment in time and money.

I have personally built several websites, none of which produced the results I wanted and needed. That is until I came across SiteRubix. In the last month, I have built 5 websites using this fantastic tool. One of the features of being a member of Wealthy Affiliate is that I can build and host up to 25 websites!

Try doing that on your own! You had better have unlimited time and deep pockets.


Now you can enjoy the benefits of this great website building software and be a part of a great internet business opportunity. The beauty is that you can join for no cost, no credit card and enjoy a full 7 days to explore on your own and build your own professional looking website. Then and only then, you can decide that you want to go forward. All this without risking a penny.

Alternatively, you can spend days and big bucks trying to do it on your own. Let’s look at the pros and cons of using SiteRubix:


  1. Cost effective. Cost thousands less than using a professional site builder.
  2. Time Saver. Take minutes instead of days.
  3. Fantastic training and support from Wealthy Affiliate (Premium account)
  4. Support of hundreds of fellow members.
  5. The opportunity of making extra income.


The training can be intense and often overwhelming if you let it.





Wealthy Affiliate – fact or fiction?

If you think that you can spend little time or make no investment and the work is all done for you, dream on! With that said, there are plenty of dishonest people on the internet who will tell you they have found the mother lode. Is Wealthy Affilliate the Promised Land?

I have tried nearly every money making scheme available on the internet and have until I found Wealthy Afilliate, made not one penny on the internet! Since I have the experience, I feel I am qualified to offer an unbiased opinion.  Let’s review Wealthy Afilliate.

Here’s some facts

You need to know what you are getting into. You need to know the principals and everythingn you can about them.

  1. Who are the owners? Kyle Loudon & Carson Lim
  2. Where is the home office? Vancouver Canada
  3. How many employees do they have? Over 25
  4. How many members are there? Currently nearly One and a half million
  5. How long have they been in business? Over 12 years.
  6. Are they members of the BBB? No.
  7. What is the website for Wealthy Affilliate? Click on the name
  8. Is it free? Yes. You will get two websites and a 7 day trial to Premium. Upgrade to Premium for $49 per month.
  9. Is it limited to the USA & Canada? No, currently it’s in 193 countries

What do you get?

You should know and understand exactly what you will get when you join. The best way to show this is to publish the chart directly from Wealthy Afilliate.

There is also the opportunity to pay by the year and save considerable money.

Okay, so what is required of me?

First, you must understand, there are no free lunches! There is no such things as a “quick buck.”  The internet is full of scams and ripoffs and I have been a victim of many of them.

It DOES require some effort to be a success in any venture. Wealthy Afilliate is no exception. You simply must spend the time to build and maintain your website.

You MUST take time to do all of the lessons…that is part of the secret of your success. Wifhout this, you WILL fail, guaranteed. Although WA doesn’t impose any time constraints on you, you must impose some on yourself. You simply must spend the time and effort to make Wealthy Afilliate work.

What’s in it for me?

Good question. Bottom line, it’s up to you.  You will be the one who sets the goals for how much you want to make. How much CAN you make? Really, the sky is the limit…there is no limit to what you can make. Everything will be tied to your amount of time and effort you want to spend. There are no guarntees…none.

If you want to make a small, passive amount, then just do the minimum things and spend the minimum amount of time to make it happen. Don’t stress, just relax and enjoy the journey.

If you want to replace your current income and live off the income you will earn from your website/s (you can have up to 25), they you will have to spend the appropriate amount of time and effort to earn that amount of income.

Now, if you want to learn unlimited income, you have to prepare yourself to spend unlimited time! Again, if you want to get results, you have to spend the time to get them.



All of the reasons listed above. Keep in mind, I have tried most of them and they just don’t work for me.

Wealthy Afilliate works! The training alone is worth the money. The hosting of up to 25 websites can’t be compared.

It cost you NOTHING to find out for yourself, so there is nothing to lose


Well, you’ll just have to look at Google. There are a few sore heads there who wanted something for nothing. I’ve checked out their blogs and haven’t found any of them to be accurate.





how to change your life in 7 steps – it really works

I don’t know of anyone who doesn’t want a better life. How to achieve it is the issue. Let me walk you through the steps.

1. Believe you can change?

  1. Sit down and take a hard look at yourself
  2. What do I think about myself and where I’m at in life
  3. Be real…be totally honest and candid
  4. Before you can know where you’re going, you have to know where you are
  5. “The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step”. Lao Tzu
  6. Many people can help you, but it’s up to YOU to do the work

2. What I am I doing wrong?

  1. What are my personal beliefs?
  2. What are my eating habits??
  3. What are my sleeping habits?
  4. Who are my close friends?
  5. What are my work habits?
  6. What do I do in my spare time?
  7. What do I say…what do I allow to come out of my mouth?

3. Let’s get it right

1. I don’t care what your religion is, there IS a higher power. You can’t watch a blade of grass grow, or look up in the sky and see the stars and honestly say, “there is nothing more beyond this life.” Be honest!

2. What do I eat? Am I a junkie or a fast food advocate? See my post on healthy eating to get an idea if you;re eating right. Your meals must be mixed with loads of fruits and vegetables as well as meats (if you are not a vegetarian).

3. How well do you sleep? If you aren’t getting 7 to 8 hours sleep each night, you will soon be sleep deprived. You’ll be sleeping while you drive, or when you work. Go to bed the same time each night and get up the same time each morning.

4. Your friends can determine who you are! We don’t think about the influence our friends have on us. Negative talk leads to negative beliefs. Some friends are toxic! Just that simple. If you have friends who are always negative, divorce them! You won’t rise above your environment of friends.

5. Am I lazy? Am I a workaholic? Either one is a killer. To change your life, you have to change your work ethics. All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.

6. Are you a couch potato? Do you waste away in front of the “boob tube”? You are burning precious moments of your life while you watch garbage on TV. Stop it! Get a hobby. Volunteer in your community.

7. Jesus told us it’s not what goes IN your mouth, but what comes OUT of your mouth that contaminates us. Watch what you say. Guard your words. I don’t know of anyone who loves to hear foul language.

4. Think your way to a changed life

Just as you are what you eat, you become what you think. It all begins with your thinking. I have heard people refer to “stinking thinking”, or bad thinking.

One of my biggest life changers was when I read the book by Napoleon Hill Think and grow rich. Although it was written nearly a hundred years ago, it is still filled with many timely, life changing ideas. You can order your own copy in the link above.

Another life changing author was Dr. Norman Vincent Peale in his book The Power of Positive Thinking. This book was also a life changer for me. I had the opportunity of sailing from England to New York with Dr. Peale. He just radiated positive energy.

While I’m here, a great author that I enjoyed being with in the Holy Land was Dr. Robert Shuler, who wrote Move ahead with possibility thinking.

I am not selling books, however, I have found these to be great resources and Amazon has great prices on them.

5. Just do it

You can read about it. You can talk about it. You can think about it, or you can do something about it. Unless you make up your mind to begin, you will never begin.

6. Change your environment

Sometimes you just have to change your environment. That could be a room change, a location change or just an attitude change. I work a lot in my den, sitting in a recliner with the laptop on my lap. Sometimes I love to go to the front porch and just work with the open air, sitting in a porch chair.

Often, I just go for a walk with the dog and think about what I want to do. Many times I just walk to the post office and don’t think about anything. Just make a change.

7. Reward yourself

After I have worked on a project and completed it, I like to reward myself. I think about what I would like to do and mull that over in my mind, often for days. Simple things like going out to eat. A good movie is a great reward. Sitting on the porch with my wife, dog and cats, drinking a good glass of wine is as good as it gets!

Just find something that you can look forward to and then do it. Doesn’t have to be expensive. Doesn’t have to take a lot of time. Just enjoy the reward.


I have shown you only a few of the things you can do to change your life. I can’t change your life…only you can do that, but you have to DO IT!